Where Are My Human Wings? And I’m Not Talking About Angels but About Growing Into Oneself

• Wings are forelimbs specialized for flight in animals through evolution in zoology.
• A wing in aviation is a horizontal surface on an aircraft or another flying vehicle for generating lift in airflow.
• A wing in shipping is an underwater horizontal surface for moving a ship or boat above the water surface.
• Wings are the two lateral petals on a butterfly-like flower. In botany, they are also the dispersal units of plant diaspores that help them stay in the airflow.
• A wing or flank is a military term for the battle formation of opposing enemy units.

Humans do not have wings. Really?

Why do I write specifically about wings? And I’m not talking about angels or other mystical beings but human wings. Yes, we have wings; that’s why I’m writing. I only recently experienced this. Until now, it always felt like when I saw a picture or talked about wings, in the esoteric world, it was about angels or beings. In the real world, only birds and insects have wings. Where or what kind of wings do humans have?

Human wings are symbolic wings but still the ones that carry us forward in life or, conversely, do not carry us because they are clipped or restricted. Who did or does this? Why does it happen, and who is responsible? How to reclaim your wings? I will tell you shortly.

Looking back at my previous life, I often see how much effort was put in and how I pushed myself forward with force. This always made me very angry, even furious, that whatever I had planned, I had to “struggle terribly” to achieve it. Sometimes even the simplest wish seemed overwhelming or required a super plan. And when I finally got what I wanted, I didn’t enjoy the result because I was too tired. My energy was spent on planning, organizing, scheming, negotiating, and so on. Actually, I wanted to rest, but to make the effort not be in vain, I still did-was-went as the plan required.

Of course, all this also has its pluses. Like every stick has two ends, so does this effort. On the positive side, I gained enormous experience and honed my skills that no matter what, there is always a way. ALWAYS! From this experience, one of my life mottos was formed: “If there’s no way, there’s still a way!” The question is just how – by force or is it even necessary? I answer that it was necessary then, and now I can choose. I also learned a lot more, for example, how to be diplomatic in difficult situations. Or how to make very different aspects work together to fulfill the plan, that is, I learned to find commonalities or complementary parts in various elements.

On the downside, I developed a feeling that achieving something more easily is not worth anything. Or that I can’t ask anyone for help; I have to manage everything myself. You can’t rely on anyone or expect gifts that enrich your life. Myself, myself, myself – alone, alone, alone. A vicious circle and a need for control developed because I had learned not to trust anyone. At the same time, the burden of responsibility grew. People around me got used to the fact that Jaana would arrange and solve everything; you don’t have to worry about her, she can manage herself, she is cheerful and energetic. But inside me, a quiet voice was screaming and yelling for someone to notice me, for someone to do something instead of me. Another dead end – fatigue, burnout at work, in personal life, on a personal level. But if you don’t say anything yourself, no one will know. This lesson came from burnout. I started gradually practicing asking for help. First with small things, then with bigger ones. The word “NO” appeared in my vocabulary. Naturally, this rocked all the boats as much as possible. It was coming anyway – chaos and confusion because the old way no longer worked, and I didn’t know or could do the new way yet.

Who clipped or still clips my wings?

Different important people in our lives clip our wings, and it starts right from the beginning. Do this, do that, don’t do this, and don’t do that. Be like this, and why aren’t you like others, why don’t you behave like your sister or brother or the neighbor’s kid? Do as I say because I know what’s good for you (even if there is no real experience, and the parent has only book knowledge or the neighbor’s talk). Eat this at this time. Don’t ask why, just do as you are told (in reality, the parent sometimes doesn’t know why either, and delving into the reason is too time-consuming because it’s easier to continue what they experienced themselves rather than thinking that perhaps some “instructions” are outdated, meaningless, or just exercising power over the child). Naturally, societal norms and expectations also belong here to make it easier to lead, control, and exploit. The result is that self-trust disappears, self-esteem, that is, self-worth, decreases, self-awareness decreases, and the ability to stand up for oneself is lost. However, all this is again necessary because, without this experience, I would never learn to look for other solutions or answers. In other words, you need to experience restrictions and difficulties first to find what really works for you – this is the beginning of wing stretching!

On the other hand, we clip our own wings by continuing with the teachings and knowledge given to us at home, both directly and indirectly (a child observes their parents and records 100% of both verbal and non-verbal messages and actions in their subconscious. By the third year of life, the child is clear about all the home patterns, behaviors, beliefs, and teachings from both the father and mother).

Why does this happen, and who is responsible?

Such circular movement is closed and always leads back to the same point, and nothing changes. It happens to learn. As children, we lack the skills and knowledge to do otherwise. Parents are authorities, and the child sincerely believes that parents know everything. Therefore, parents have a great responsibility, not only in how they raise the child but also in the example they set by living their own lives. Children always remember because they are direct and trusting, emotional. Thanks to emotions, everything sticks in the subconscious, and it doesn’t fade even when conscious memories are erased. Parents were also once children, and they too remember subconsciously or consciously, but they remember. No teaching, command, or reaction comes from nowhere. There is always a personal experience behind it, in whatever form. Therefore, those who were before us are primarily responsible. Then we are responsible, and those who come after us are also responsible. The child’s responsibility is to grow and develop. The physical, emotional, and spiritual environment in which they grow is the parent’s responsibility.

How to get your human wings back?

Emotions are like signposts. Start observing the so-called heavy and irritating moments. For example, when suddenly, out of nowhere, a feeling of heaviness appears in the body, or when little things annoy you. Notice when you raise your voice too easily or, conversely, want to be silent, and socializing is tiring. Or any other reactions, emotions, and behaviors that seem not appropriate in the given situation. If you feel trapped, stuck, life has become dull and boring, etc. In short, everything that disturbs or could be different but you don’t know how and why it is so, then it is a sign that your human wings want to grow and stretch. This indicates that a process needs to be undergone. Identify the reasons for the disappearance or atrophy of the wings and free yourself from the wounds that hold you back in life. What this process entails, read more in the “Thirst for Knowledge” section of the Story Corner article: What Is This “Process” Beast? And this is the answer to the question: “How to reclaim your human wings?” Link to the article: https://minad.ee/what-exactly-is-this-process-or-the-6-stages-of-change